When I was a kid, I learned my parents were 24 when they got married. That sounded positively ancient. Surely I'd get married much sooner than that!
I am currently mere days away from my 32nd birthday. And I'm still single.I had always imagined that by this point in my life, I'd have a husband, two or three kids, and be a stay-at-home mom. For whatever reason, God has put me on a different path. Most of the time, I'm okay with this—I'm actually glad I didn't marry young, as I've done a
lot of growing up in the 14 years since I graduated from high school. I enjoy the freedom I have as a single woman; I don't really have to consider anyone else when deciding on purchases, entertainment, meals, or travel. I can do whatever I want on the weekend. I only have to worry about getting myself ready in the morning, so I can sleep until the last possible second.
Overall, my life is good.Tomorrow, I'll sign the documents to officially purchase my first house. I've heard that moving is one of the five most stressful things in life, and I've never before believed it, but I sure do now! There is so much more stress involved with finding and purchasing a house than there is with renting. And don't even get me started on the loan approval process! (It's enough to give someone a heart condition. No kidding.)
And I wish I had someone to walk by my side, helping me make decisions and sharing the stress.
My parents have been fantastic, checking out houses and going furniture shopping with me, giving advice when I ask for it, and helping me pack. My loan officer has been incredibly patient, reassuring me when the approval process took longer than I thought it should and answering all of my "I have no idea what I'm doing!" questions. My friends have been behind me, cheering me on and praying for wisdom and sanity. My sister
Steph has been a great sounding board, always bringing me back to reality. (Also, she mowed my lawn for me tonight so I wouldn't have to take a break from packing to do it. She's pretty awesome.)
But, as wonderful as these people are, they aren't "in it" with me.
So I want to take a moment to acknowledge something that I usually don't: singleness is hard. It's not my
ideal life, but it is my
current life. And while journeying through life without a partner is difficult, I shouldn't use it as an excuse for letting my life stagnate.
That's why I took an accounting class this summer (and learned I most certainly should not become an accountant).
That's why I joined a book club through my church, even though meeting new people is difficult for me.
And that's why I'm buying a house.
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